Have you ever made a Facebook (FB) “friend request” to someone you know quite well, have many mutual friends in common with and that went unanswered? This has happened to me. I know, its time that I let it go.
Have you ever decided to “unfriend” someone or has someone “unfriended” you? Both have happened to me. I accepted a “friend request” from a “friend of a friend”. I had never met the woman but we had many “mutual friends” in common. The woman’s comments kept showing up in my “In Box” and after a few months of her daily comments about her child’s health, I started to wonder why am I reading this? She seemed to have a lot of “friends” so I doubt that she ever noticed that I deleted her as one of my FB friends. I also have a friend who has “defriended” me twice. The last time it happened she said that Facebook deleted all her friends with whom she wasn’t active and would I be her “friend” again.
And what about those “friend seekers”? I have one friend who has more than 2500 friends on Facebook. She has “friended” many of my friends whom she has never met before, they have no mutual friends and they are not public figures. When I receive friend requests I now have to think, do I know this person and do I need to be online friends with them – and if so, should I only keep them as an “acquaintance”? I know as I write this I do have to admit that I am “friends” with Barack Obama and I did send author Clay Shirky a friend request today (we do share one mutual friend).
On the plus side, I do like it when I scroll over a Facebook friend’s name to discover that we have a friend in common, especially when it is a bit of an unlikely connection including one across the globe. I do have to admit that there are more happy Facebook moments than sad ones. I enjoy reading posts, looking at photos and in general keeping up with family friends. It helps me feel more engaged in their lives. So despite the friend issues (they are few and far between), I will keep using Facebook. However, I have recently got into using Twitter and I am having fun with it. As a result, my Facebook use has declined. Sorry, Facebook. Hello, Twitter!
(Please leave a comment – especially if you are not in my Comm 506 class – I would love to hear from you and to hear about your experiences with social media)